Thank you to my awesome girlfriend for letting me steal part of our email chain today for my blog :)I'm pretty sure my theories are correct and finally we can put this lifelong struggle to rest.
Ok so I had this theory last night. You know how most of the time you either get a really nice, good guy or you get a guy you have really good sexual chemistry from but nothing much else? Ok so I always felt like you had to settle for one or the other but I thought, being a good person isn't a learned behavior but sex is. Although some of you might disagree, hear me out because this is *almost blog worthy. I think in general you're either a good person or you're not. You're either caring, loving, sweet, sentimental, etc. or you're not. You don't sit at home reading books on how to be more thoughtful but sex on the other hand, you most certainly do. Take an average magazine cover, I guarantee there's at least one article on how to be a better lover or tips for turning on your spouse, etc....but I've yet to see the cover article called how to not lie or how not to cheat this Valentine's Day. We all started out the same sexually, no experience, not sure what we like, what we are comfortable with. I mean if you had told me 10 years ago I would like some of the things I do I would have balked at you why? Because I didn't know, or hadn't tried it or hadn’t tried it with the right person and so on. Each experience teaches you a little more about what you like and what you don't. How ever I am now sexually, whether it be good or bad, it's because someone taught me how to do it. It's a learned process so to wrap it all up, if your with someone who is a really good person and you get along well and everything is good except the sex then pick them over the rad sex but shitty human being person. Trust me, teaching them how to fuck you properly will be a lot less time, heartache and headache than trying to make things work with hot dick asshole.
*Fuck it, this is blog worthy